Become less intimidating guys
Motivated to impress an impressive woman, some men rise to the occasion.As much as we all want to think that guys can handle their own around girls, the truth is that a lot of men are intimidated by women.
If a woman they met seemed smarter or more ambitious than they believed themselves to be, they dialed down their romantic interest.If such a pair actually go out, the man’s mindset isn’t guaranteed to be very different.Kate Ratliff, a psychologist at the University of Florida, led a recent study in which men in a dating relationship were asked to reflect on a time when their partner was successful in an intellectual or academic domain.Asked to reflect on a girlfriend’s failures, however, their self-esteem increased, as did their perceived odds of being together in the longterm.(Female self-esteem, meanwhile, was unaffected by a partner’s success.) Not every fellow has the confidence of actor George Clooney, who calls his wife Amal, an accomplished international lawyer, his intellectual superior and himself her “arm candy.” Men often feel they need to defend their status as competent and competitive, Park explains, and being outperformed is a threat.
As for single guys, there’s a little-known benefit for those who genuinely prefer women who are smarter than they are.