Cope with dating an airman
Now, Di Silverio writes mystery novels and parents her kids full time. Even though she expects to earn her master's degree this year, employers seem to be more interested in speaking about job opportunities to her husband, who retired from the Navy in 2010."Whenever folks learn that I am the wife of a military veteran, they always ask for my husband to be the person that they hire," she said.Phyfe said that because the stakes of service are so high, military marriages require a certain degree of strength, which he said can ultimately help keep military couples together."[We] deal with life and death daily so the fear that has to be overcome is something that creates a friendship and love like no other," he said. Homecomings might be happy, but they aren’t easy on either spouse."It's ironic because my husband does not want to be the primary breadwinner now; he wants to go to school to get his bachelor's degree.We had even agreed that I should be the primary breadwinner [now that he's retired] because I have the academic background.” 5.
A misconception about military marriage is that it frequently involves infidelity, according to Perkins.
"My wife did not want to go through the process of releasing those duties only to be thrust back into them again at a moment’s notice. Married service members can't share details of their work with their spouses, which can be frustrating to both partners.
This strain of that coming and going is amplified in a military family." 8. When most spouses come home, they swap stories about their days.
It's especially hard on men who are socialized to get such a large part of their sense of self from their careers." But, just because the career of a military spouse takes precedence at one point, that doesn't mean it always will.
"Marriage is about sacrifice, about one person's job taking precedence right now, with the understanding that the other spouse’s needs will take precedence in the future," Di Silverio said.
"While I was away 'doing Army things,' my wife had to be the wife/husband/mother/father all rolled into one and handled all of the other daily chores.