Dating a broke guy
"I think if a guy can keep productive, the money is secondary," she says. On the other hand, a broke guy who's following his dreams--playing in a band, starting his own company, volunteering to help the needy--can be an even bigger turn on than a banker with a big wallet.The couple can avoid violating the “man earns more” social norm if the woman works part time or leaves the labor force altogether. But what if the woman stays in the labor force and earn more than her spouse? tweet So, here’s how it appears to work: Unemployed, under-employed and low-paid women are still dateable and marriage material, while guys are not.
Now they're engaged and he's gainfully employed. Are the two of you doomed to stay at home and stare at the TV?A few years ago, the book — boys get the same message, and even in this presumably enlightened age, I just can’t see a parent encouraging a son to “marry up.” Earlier this summer, a study (OK, funded by a credit report agency so I take it with a grain of salt) indicated financial responsibility and financial compatibility was more important or just as important as career ambition, physical attraction and sex and intimacy, especially for women.It never even occurred to me to worry about such things (I’ve never discussed credit ratings with a partner), but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t have paid it attention when it seemed like things were getting serious.*he commands too much respect; this is funny, even rich guys that can afford to buy expensive things for their woman doesn’t command as much as him, I guess this is done so you won’t disregard him.*he will naturally look stingy to you ; imagine asking your broke boyfriend to help you with #500 when he himself already has a plan for the only #1000 left with him, this is ridiculous because by the time he decides to impress you with 2000# you won’t just be feeling him anymore.
Now that I’m at midlife, however, and helping to get two kids through college, hoping to retire one day, and dealing with the never-ending costs of living (my broken clavicle cost me of money, despite my health insurance, and my car appears to have an electrical problem, no doubt a pricey problem, that I need to deal with ASAP), I think about money a wee bit more.