Dating when youre sepatated
“Something that really hung us up was what to do with the burial plots,” says Britt Danforth, who continued to cohabit with her estranged husband for nearly two years after their emotional connection and sexual life ended.Britt and her former husband, Peter, had bought two of the last remaining burial spots in the graveyard behind the historic Congregational church in the small New England town where they had both grown up — and where members of their families had been interred for more than 200 years.They no longer wanted to be buried next to each other, but neither wanted to sell the adjoining plot to the other.“In the end, we sold to someone else in the town, got a good price and divided the money equally," she says.Plus if there are children living at home, the burden on the primary guardian might be unmanageable alone.And then there are the oddball issues you don’t think about until they come up."I wasn’t ready to give that up.” The new economic reality that comes with divorce goes beyond having a comfortable home.End a marriage and you no longer have two paychecks — or two full Social Security checks — coming in.
Often they have been married for 20 or more years and jointly own a home and other valuable assets, says Tina B.
Fear of losing her home was Marcy Blume’s motivation.
“It sounds silly, but I knew that when Jim and I truly divorced, unless I won lotto or something, I’d never have as nice a kitchen again for the rest of my life," she confides.
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According to Tessina, the most common thing that keeps people together is money — or more to the point, the lack thereof.
So basically they’re just kicking the can down the road.